Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.
-Thich Nhat Hanh
If you need to give someone bad news — that you are firing, not hiring, or demoting them — here are some tips from Psychology Today (September 2013) about how to ease the pain...
- Deliver bad news on the other person's turf.
- Rejector's body language — eye contact and relaxed stance — may convey respect and help calm a rejectee's state of mind.
- When you can't give what's prized, try presenting another opportunity, such as friendship or a job lead instead.
- Blaming cognitive rather than emotional shortcomings for the rejection (e.g., incompetence, rather than lack of warmth) will stoke anger; the reverse approach, meanwhile, is more likely to spark tears.
As you read about the bumps the authors have encountered throughout their careers, you will be encouraged and challenged to think more deeply and openly about your own practices and philosophies. You will gain a renewed sense of purpose as you help children reach their full potential. And, you will discover — as the authors did — that every bump in the road is an invitation to grow and opportunity to learn.
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Belle FOurche, SD, United States
As an experienced therapist and as an experienced for-profit and not-for-profit business executive, soft-peddling why you are terminating the employment of someone is disrespectful and disempowering to that soon to be former employee. We do not want to be shaming but we need to be forthright so that they are provided an opportunity for growth. If we protect them from negative feelings, we are communicating that they are not capable of handling those feelings and we are denying them motivation to grow beyond the behaviors that resulted in termination.
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