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In her article, "Building Spaces, Finding Words — Creating the Context for Positive Discipline," which forms the basis for the Exchange Out of the Box Training Kit by the same name, Marjorie Kostelnik talks about using logical consequences whenever children act inappropriately:

"Logical consequences make an obvious connection between children's behavior and a resulting disciplinary action.  They cause children either to rehearse the desired behavior or to restore a problem situation to a more desirable state.  For instance, if the rule is 'Walk' and LaToya runs down the hall, a logical consequence would be to have her retrace her steps and walk.  The act of walking actually approximates the rule, allowing LaToya to enact it physically.  This provides her with a meaningful reminder of the rule to draw on in the future.

"Similarly, if Mohammed draws in a picture book, it would be logical to have him erase the marks.  This action returns the volume to a more acceptable state and shows Mohammed that the unacceptable act of defacing a book will not be tolerated.  As these consequences are being carried out, adults remind children of what the rule was and why the consequence is necessary.  They do so matter of factly, never shouting, mocking, or threatening children.  Logical consequences also are more effective than simply scolding children, forbidding them to participate in a favorite activity, or asking them to sit away from the group for a while.  Although the latter consequences demonstrate adult displeasure, they do not teach children acceptable behaviors to substitute for less positive ones.

"Children need positive guidance from adults to distinguish acceptable from unacceptable behavior and to learn how to behave in appropriate ways.  Such guidance is best provided in a physical environment that supports children's decision making, independence, and cooperative interactions.  Likewise, a positive verbal environment is the most conducive to children's development of a favorable self-image and socially acceptable conduct."

 

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