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So Sexy, So Soon
August 7, 2008
Give children the time and the space to work it out.
-Karen Stephens

Yesterday (August 6, 2008) on The Today Show, Jean Kilbourne and Exchange writer Diane E. Levin, were interviewed about their just released book, So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids. In this timely book, Kilbourne and Levin argue that popular culture and technology inundate our children with an onslaught of mixed messages at earlier ages than ever before. Corporations capitalize on this disturbing trend, and without the emotional sophistication to understand what they are seeing and doing, kids are increasingly getting into trouble emotionally and socially; some may even engage in precocious sexual behavior. Parents are left shaking their heads, wondering: How did this happen? What can we do?

Note: While Kilbourne and Levin presented their case very well, one couldn't help but notice on the other parts of the program the Today hosts adulated over news about Paris Hilton and Bruce Willis' actress daughter.

So Sexy So Soon is an invaluable and practical guide for parents who are fed up, confused, and even scared by what their kids — or their kids’ friends — do and say. The authors not only describe the problem, they also offer practical advice to parents such as...

  • Help your children expand their imaginations by suggesting new ways for them to play with toys; for example, instead of “playing house” with dolls, they might send their toys on a backyard archeological adventure.
  • Counteract the narrow gender stereotypes in today’s media: ask your son to help you cook; get your daughter outside to play ball.
  • Share your values and concerns with other adults — relatives, parents of your children’s friends — and agree on how you’ll deal with TV and other media when your children are at one another’s houses.



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nahom · August 13, 2008
asmara, asmara, Eritrea


i love u!!!

Edna Ranck · August 12, 2008
OMEP-USNC
Washington, DC, United States


Diane Levin was the only American invited speaker at the World Organization for Early Childhood Education (OMEP) Assembly and Conference held in Quebec City, Quebec, Canada. In Levin's absence because of the great opportunity to be on the Today program, her presentation on violence and children was given electronically and introduced by Dr. Blythe Hinitz, The College of New Jersey. The problems highlighted by Levin and others affect children in every other country in our global world.

OMEP-USA and NAEYC co-sponsor a film literacy festival at the annual NAEYC Conference to address exactly how the issues of violence, conflict, and inappropriate images affect children, parents, and educators.

Donna McAndrew · August 07, 2008
Pittston, PA, United States


I can't agree more that children are exposed to too much too soon in all froms of media. I also agree that children need to return to nature and exploration of their environment. There is little left to the imagination with the manufactured toys children play with. As a child, I remember spending most of my day pretending that many things were something else. The tree was a tower, the swing set was a space ship, etc. I watch children play and see the lack of imagination. Children are singing words to songs that are so inappropriate for young children. The are watching shows and movies that are also so inappropriate for young children. TV shows that are aired in "prime time" are so out of line for young children. The content even shocks me at times. I have noticed that even G rated movies have so much adult content that it is assumed will "go over the heads" of young children. What a shame to assume that children are so unaware. Advertisements that are geared towards young children are well beyond the years of the children targeted. Children's clothing should reflect the innocence of childhood, not emulate morally questionable young adults. Parents do have to take charge of their children and stop letting them be swept away by the media that bombards them with images and language that they do not fully understand, yet are drawn to as a result of the glitz and glamour of the bombardment. We need to let children be children.

angela · August 07, 2008
United States


While I agree media has always pushed children to grow up too fast and dress provocative, I do not see how a daughter learning to keep house would push her to be "too sexy too soon"...it seems like the comments posted about pushing girls try boy activities and boys to learn to keep house (cook for example) is the author's way of sharing their peronal views on gender roles which was not the point of the story. The point is to protect children from growing up too fast. While children should be able to play with what interests them and learn many life skills they still should understand there are gender differences or they will learn the hard way once their honeymoon's over. :) I think if more women understood how to keep house, cook, etc. there would be a lot less marriages falling apart. There is a reason men and women are different (physically, emotionally, and socially).

jean nathanson · August 07, 2008
United States


I love your articles and read them every day. they are short and to the point and as a director of a day care center that's what I am looking for. This is a general comment and I may have missed it before, but I noticed in this article that I didn't see credentials next to the people's names. I think this is always important as it gives us an idea as to the experts' backgrounds.
Yes I agree that life is too sped up for children. Vaccines have possibly sped things up. Girls have always been the target of unwanted advances and now more so than ever when dress up isn't played anymore and the innocence of childhood continues to fade we have to thank companies like Dove for doing their part. We as early childhood educators have to fight to keep childhood in prospective for the children, families and the world. You only get one chance @ childhood and a healthy balanced childhood hold the key to success in adulthood.



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