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Biting Among Toddlers and Twos: Responses to Try," Stephens offers this advice:
"Identifying conditions and situations that contribute to biting can help parents and care professionals respond wisely, but it can be tricky. The reasons children bite vary immensely. And in truth, an exact cause is sometimes never pinned down with certainty. We do know that by nature, toddlers and twos strive to get what they want, when they want it. And so they sometimes act out or use aggression, such as biting. Very young children rely on non-verbal communication, rather than verbal language, to express wishes and feelings. And so it’s critical to observe children’s behavior and the conditions that lead to a biting incident. Observation can help us fathom children’s motivations or primary goal.
"Some children may be prone to biting when hungry, tired, overwhelmed, frustrated, or enduring teething pain. Others may bite to get an adult’s undivided attention or to get a toy from a playmate. Biting is also a way for children to exert a sense of power and control. Children sometimes bite out of exploratory curiosity or interest in textures and sensations. They are equally fascinated by cause and effect. And of course, imitation always comes into play with children’s behavior, too.
"Also observe to see if your child bites out of frustration or out of self defense. Reflect on stresses your child may be enduring that may contribute to temper flares. For instance, long-term separation during a parent’s work travel can lower kids’ frustration tolerance. In some cases, it’s the group care environment that contributes to biting. Too few toys, overcrowded conditions, excessive noise, or frequent change in teaching staff whittle away at children’s emotional reserves.
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Comments (3)
Displaying All 3 Commentsrapid city, sd, United States
This is a wonderful article. Biting is an ever present and frustrating situation in child care and this article takes a look at all angles. This will be very helpful.
the grand child care center
chicago, il, United States
Very interesting. Many years ago in our day care center there was a serious case of biting where this two year old nice, quiet child used to bite any child randomly.. We looked in to all the possibilities.. and to my knowledge he did not have a clear idea of kissing verses biting. We tried each and every solution but in the end had to lat the child go. In 20 years of my carrier this one was one of the challenging cases.
Geeta Bhatt, Director, The Grand Child Care Center, Chicago,il.
St. David\'s Episcopal Day School
Austin, TX, United States
Thank you for the information on biting. It would be helpful to have suggestions on how to handle biting when it occurs in a classroom.
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