Dealing with Negative People

03/14/2003

"All gardens are a form of autobiography."
–Robert Dash

DEALING WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE

In an article in The School Administrator magazine (February 2003), "Coping with Malcontents," Michael R. Weber observes that negative people..."are tremendous energy drainers for adults, children and themselves. Negative people consume large financial and human resources and usually stand in the way of new ideas and programs." In this article, Weber outlines a number of approaches to dealing with negative people in a school setting. Here is one of his ideas:

"Be an absolute role model. You must walk the talk. Staff members, students, parents, the community and board members must see you as a strong leader with positive solutions to almost any challenge....School board members and your administrative team are interested in positive solutions and options to problems. What they do not need is the top school leader lamenting over budget, state/federal regulations or any number of other challenges. Instead, outline the problem in a factual calm manner and then present several options for solving the problem. As Henry Ford reportedly said: 'Yes, we have a significant problem. I am not sure what we are going to do, but here is one thing we can do right now.' Board members, communities, and other administrators are looking for positive solution-oriented leadership from someone who is not overwhelmed by negativity.
"One thought that runs through my mind over and over again is this: 'There is always a solution; find a way, find a way.' Lead by example and monitor your own behavior and attitude. When you begin to slip, catch yourself, adjust your thinking and move forward. Keep the following in mind as a barometer of your attitude: 'You know you are becoming negative when you blame others for your problems.'
"Therefore, guard getting yourself sucked into negative downward spirals. Do not participate in negative conversations or share in other’s negative emotions. Control your own attitude and emotion."

To read Weber's entire article, go to: http://www.aasa.org/publications/sa/2003_02/weber.htm

For practical ideas on overcoming challenging staff situations in the early childhood setting, check out Staff Challenges - click here.

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