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"Education is for improving the lives of others and for leaving your community and world better than you found it." —Marian Wright Edelman
DELINQUENCY BEGINS EARLY
In an article, "Power Struggles: Early Experiences Matter," in the
Beginnings Workshop section of the January 2001 issue of Child
Care Information Exchange (available at www.ChildCareExchange.com), James
Garbarino how the seeds of adult aggression can be planted in the earliest days:
"Why do some difficult babies become well socialized youth while others
end up troubled or in trouble? One important reason lies in their early experience
of power struggles. Chronic bad behavior and aggression are more than a simple
matter of hardwiring the brain. They result from experience, experience that
may start with the misuse of parental power in the early months of life, particularly
as an adaptation to early mistreatment, rejection and inept parenting.
"In a study by psychologists Byron Egeland, Stuart Erickson, and Robert
Pianta at the University of Minnesota, children who were maltreated at an early
age were noticeably less cooperative than children who had not suffered harsh
punishment at the hands of their parents or guardians. This is significant because
the early badness of out of control children often starts with this reaction
to maltreatment, that is being non-cooperative and resistant to parental directions
and commands. This makes the task of anyone who would reform these children
very challenging indeed.
"Children may start off on a negative path in part because parents mistakenly
withdraw from them in the first months of life, perhaps because some mothers
and fathers have been taught that leaving a young infant to cry in the crib
is the best medicine or because they find the baby is too much to handle. The
truth is, in the early months of life, the big danger is not too much attention,
but rather inattention. It is only later that effective parents begin to shape
their child's behavior by responding to desirable and undesirable behavior in
different ways.
"Some parents believe that the way to encourage cooperativeness and obedience
in a child is to be harsh and punishing from the very start, to use overwhelming
parental power. But in her classic study of the relation between maternal responsiveness
in the first three months of life and the child's compliance at 12 months, psychologist
Eleanor Maccoby found just the opposite. Rather than producing a spoiled brat,
she found that the more responsive mothers were in the first three months of
life —for example, going immediately to pick up the baby when her cried —the more obedient the child was at one year."
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