Article Link: http://exchangepress.com/article/not-attention-but-affirmation/5025684/
This article uses the terms provider, early childhood professional, and teacher interchangeably. To a child, they are all teachers. The illustrations (sometimes called vignettes) are composites of countless observations over 50 years of being in early childhood learning settings. Sometimes young children’s speech mannerisms peek through in them—hope they sound typical.
New early childhood professionals sometimes hear from others that some children “just want attention. They will misbehave to get any attention they can, even negative attention.” Providers who hold this view tend to believe that children know how to act better, but “out of selfishness” they demand more of the adult’s time than they “deserve.” A related idea is that providers who give “too much attention” to individual children are showing favoritism and are “spoiling them.”
Hopefully most providers move past these outdated notions. These professionals know that at a deeper level than attention, young children want and need personal affirmation as worthwhile individuals and worthy members of the group. Since Maslow’s writing in the 1960s, many have come to recognize that affirmation as worthwhile individuals and worthy members of the group are basic needs that children must meet in order to grow and be healthy. This second set of providers ...